Review your success
Review what you do well. Too often we stress and focus on our disasters and fail to actually sit back and think about things that we have done well.
Reviewing the things you have done well, does not necessarily mean big or important things in your life. This review can take in anything and everything. Bad habits, dealing with difficult people or situations.
Analyse the situation
By spending some time analysing the things that have gone well – and dissecting why and how that came about, we can learn a lot about ourselves. We can also work out what works, and what motivates us.
Whether it is the apple crumble that you made, which was absolutely delicious, or dealing successfully with a difficult relative, there will have been a process.
It may have been quite accidental – but the process will still be there. And if you can work out what that process is and repeat and refine it as necessary, that information will be there to support you in the future when a similar situation arises again.
So think about what you have done well or improved upon in the past year. How did that happen? What steps accidental or planned did you take to make that happen.
What steps did you take
Taking the example of the apple crumble. When did you make it? What ingredients did you use? How much time did you allow? Where and for how long did you cook it? What did you serve it with? What mood were you in? Where did you eat it? All these elements would have a part to play in your delicious apple crumble.
An apple crumble maybe a small thing –and maybe not the best example. But hopefully you get the picture. Having the confidence to have made this delicious apple crumble, and worked out how you did it, is likely to help you have a go at something more challenging to cook. And guess what, some of those same elements (although not necessarily ingredients), you will need to use when facing your next culinary challenge.
And the failures you would rather forget about. Take time out to work out what went wrong. What, if anything could you have differently – and most of all what lessons can you take from something you failed or felt you could have done better at.