Looking back into the archives of Help for Busy Mums I discovered this post taken from an article written by Nancy Montier a certified coach. Its all about trying to sift through the never ending information that is thrown at parenting. How to manage this overload of information and focus on putting things that are important first. The tag line of Help for Busy Mums.
Parenting and technology
” … the amount of new information generated last year was about 23 exabytes. An exabyte is a million terabytes. A terabyte is a million megabytes.” Diane S. Kendall in Parenting with Technology.”
A million million megabytes of information is a lot of data in one year.Especially when you think that a megabyte is about the equivalent of an average sized book. Parents are offered hundreds if not thousands of books, magazines, articles, support groups, chat rooms, websites, blogs, radio and TV shows, therapists, coaches, classes, workshops, church groups and all with the good intention to support us in our parenting journey.
Nancy says “I believe we parents feel guilty. I coach moms who feel guilty about leaving their children when they go to work; and who feel guilty about not contributing financially when they stay home with their children.
I’ve experienced both ends of that guilt stick! I’ve talked to Dads in their 50’s who regret the time they didn’t spend with their children as they grew up. Now they see their young adult children lost and adrift in our very complex world, unable to pull it all together to make their lives work.”
Are we doing enough? Are we doing too much? Should I take them to all these activities or not? So we anguish and become guilty over what to do and not do.
Parents become confused or frustrated with too much conflicting information. Banish the guilt and take charge!
Here are four tips to help you manage the information overload and the guilt.
Parenting – your sacred areas
What are your main priorities regarding parenting and your family?
Do you and your partner agree? If so you don’t need to absorb new information to fix what isn’t broken.
Your visions, dreams and goals
What are your dreams, visions and goals? What experiences and outcomes are you striving for? What are the values which are most important to you.
Use these answers to evaluate the raft of information you are facing by asking, “does this idea move me closer to our family’s dreams and does it honour our values?” If it doesn’t discard or table the information for reading when it is relevant.
Time with your family
How much time do you want to spend with your family? What do you want to spend this time doing?
Schedule it in your diary. It is more important than a meeting or going to the gym.
The issues you need help with
What parenting issues do you need more information on? Allow time and energy only for information that answers your needs.
Filter the information
With all the information and the multitude of different values families need to know who they are and stand firm. This is knowing your “Family Soul”. It is what gives your family heart and inspiration.
Close the window on the storm of information raging outside – books, blogs, advisors, etc, pummeling on your home. Instead, cuddle up with the children to read, or play games, or do homework or housework.
Select carefully the information you let in and banish guilt!”