Why you should try to live in the present
Make sure you are live in the present. Living in “The Present” is not a new concept, we are told it all the time. Live in the present, don’t allow yourself to dream about the future or fret over the past.
The trouble is sometimes we can not seem to stop thinking about the things we want to happen or dread happening, and our moods are hijacked by what we are thinking about.
Do you worry about the future or fret about the past?
I know I am guilty of doing this. I worry about things which may potentially happen in the future or find myself fretting about something which has already happened! The result is I end up feeling dejected, frustrated and irritable. This can lead to a lack of confidence even when the incident in question is outside of my control.
I came across this little book called The Present some years ago and like most things in life practice makes perfect. This has prompted me to decide it is about time I read this little book again!
It may be a management book, a little dated now perhaps – but personally I think this is great read for most of us whatever our personal circumstances.
In a nutshell this is what it is about.
Stay in The Present:
Live everyday focusing on the present. Listen, focus, enjoy and live every minute operating in the here and now.
As a result your energy and performance in whatever you do will improve because you are a hundred percent focused on the here and now. This will then help you to become happier and more successful in achieving your goals, whatever they may be.
Learn from the Past:
When you mind drifts to past mistakes, irritations and failures, don’t turn away from these thoughts, or absently dwell on them . Consciously consider what you have learnt from the situation. Consider how you could tackle a similar situation better or differently. By doing this you will find yourself no longer harbouring negative feelings. More importantly by thinking about how you could have handled the situation differently, you are less likely to repeat the same mistakes in the future. This exercise will help bring you back to the Present with the knowledge that you have gained from the past.
Plan for your future
When you start dreaming about the future, or worrying about what lies ahead, take a step back into the present and consider what you can do today to create the future you would like. This will require planning and goal setting. Building in slack for the unpredictable and having a path that you are moving along step by step one day at a time.
Do this every day with Purpose – and you will notice that life will start to run more smoothly and you will find you can do more with less effort.
I would strongly recommend this book. Buy it for your kids when they are feeling a little overwhelmed or just for yourself. It is a simple to read but very insightful book written by the best selling author called Spencer Johnson and described as The Present: the Gift That Makes You Happy and Successful at Work and in Life
On a personal note
This book “The Present” has certainly given me my own light bulb moment and helped me find a way to learn and move on from things I have been irritated on challenged by. Instead of dwelling on my irritations, considered failures – the book The Present has given me a strategy to learn from them and I can tell you it is a very freeing feeling.