Finding calm in a busy world when there are so many people and things pulling at our time is difficult. It requires a certain amount of self discipline to step back and take a few minutes to re-charge the batteries. Yet the benefits of making time to do this on a regular basis are good for both your mental and physical health.
Too much to do and too little time
Everything seems to be conspiring against you. Instead of focusing on the stress and irritation you are feeling, instead try to think about the people around you who are affected by your anger and grumpiness and the effect that this stress is having on them.
Now I am not talking a full yoga or transcendental meditation here as clearly you probably are not going to be able to fit that into your busy schedule. The thing is you don’t need hours sitting in a quiet room, you can meditate anywhere. On the bus, at your desk, the kitchen table, or in the bath.
Anywhere where you are able to sit down or relax for just a few minutes. There are many books on Mindfulness which not only explain the benefits – both to you and your family. It will also give you help into developing an attitude of Mindfulness.
Generally the times we feel under most pressure is when we are focusing on our own problems, whatever form these may come in. Look beyond your own circumstances. Find the humour, be kind and focus on the positives.
Gratitude is a very powerful and mood changing emotion. However difficult life maybe instead of focusing inwardly on all your negative stuff, think of all the good things in your life. And there will be many I promise you.
Sit down and focus on how your body feels. Start at your feet, and work your way up to your head and mentally do a body scan, noticing which parts of your body feel relaxed and which feel more tense. Don’t try to change anything – just build up a mental picture.
Focus on your breathing, counting as you breathe in and as you breathe out. You don’t need to change the pattern of your breathing – just count from one to ten and repeat for a minute or two.
Set your mind free.
Try to think of nothing – but if your mind won’t let you do that – let it do its own thing and metaphorically run free.
Jack Canfield suggests in his book How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be to imagine sitting on a river bank and observing sights and smells you might sense. When you find your mind drifting, see the thought as a boat drifting along the river bank and imagine yourself getting off the boat and returning to the river bank. The boat is your thought and this is a gentle way of reminding yourself that your mind has drifted. And visualise the boat (and your thoughts), continuing their journey down the river, leaving you to continue visualising the sights and sounds.
A few minutes of the above exercise will leave you feeling more relaxed and give you a renewed perspective and clarity on life.