Family time and family traditions create strong relationships & memories
We are now heading into the time of the year when there are lots of opportunities to create your own “new family traditions” .
If you feel that your family as lovely as it is, does not celebrate or have as many “get to-togethers” as you like why not create your own family traditions.
To get some ideas listen to friends who may have there own traditions, or take ideas from a book or film. You can alter them to suit your own families situation and make them a regular item on the calendar, whether it is annually, monthly or even weekly.
Family traditions don’t need to be complicated or time consuming. It could be as simple as putting a mince-pie and carrots out for Father Christmas to eat when he delivers the Christmas presents. Having friends or family over for a drink on Christmas morning.
Like us – banning the family presents being opened until after Christmas Dinner – which in our house is about 5pm, after the walk and a treasure hunt, another family tradition.
For years the kids complained about not being “allowed” to open their presents until after we had eaten our Christmas Dinner. So last year I suggested they just opened the family presents whenever they wanted.
There was uproar. The bottom line was they enjoyed the anticipation of waiting to open their presents and liked the banter that surrounded it. The reason we started delaying the present opening was so they had something to look forward to later on Christmas Day.
When I was a little girl my grandmothers always took me to the panto over Christmas. My mother carried on that tradition with her own grandchildren. One day I would like to do the same.
Traditions don’t have to be just at Christmas
I have some friends who have always had a Family Night. Family night was Friday night for them. This was the time after a busy week they kept their diary clear to spend with the kids. This might have meant a meal out at a local Pizza restaurant, the cinema, or dinner in and watching a video or playing a Board Game.
As the children have got older they still have family nights. Nights they all enjoy together, now not every week. It is still a time for them to catch up and have fun. The children although they are now teenagers still enjoy this time together because it is fun. This of course is the key.
Christmas and birthdays are a great time for families to get together and celebrate with a meal, a sing-song or whatever rocks your families boat. Thanks giving, Halloween, Easter, a summer party or family picnic are all great ways to develop your own little tradition.
Families come in all shapes and sizes and aren’t always related
Whatever the size, age or make up of your nearest and dearest try creating a few of your own family traditions or family nights. Of course your family may consist of friends or neighbours or maybe just you and your son or daughter. The makeup and size and shape of your family is not important.
Making your own family traditions will mean that you will also be creating lots of positive memories not just for you, but for your family that they may well adopt with their own families one day.