How easy do you find it to work out what your priorities are? Putting first things first is not always as easy or simple to work out as you think it would be.
Of course your children and partner are the key players in your life, but sometimes we can find ourselves in conflict with what we want to do and what we have to do. Lots of stuff pulling at our time which leaves us feeling muddled, stressed and maybe a little unfulfilled in certain areas of our life.
Worse than that we can start feeling resentful that actually the stuff pulling at our time is all about what needs to be done rather than the things we aspire to do either in our home or work-life.
I was speaking to a client recently who admitted that the internal conflicts she felt with her ambitions at work and her practical situation at home left her feeling a bit of a failure.
A failure, because in her opinion, she felt she was not doing a very good job on either front. She told me she felt like a boat in storm being tossed around and never managing to dock anywhere.
When we discussed this a little further it became clear that the label of failure was the fiction of her own imagination. After all how can someone be a failure at anything they are trying to achieve if they have not thought through any defined goals as to what, when and how they are going achieve it.
So she has now gone off to think about what she believes is practical to achieve both at work and at home in the next month, year and five years. A sort of road map or timeline of where she is heading.
OK, so yes circumstances may change, but having a master plan is like having a map when you go on a long car journey. If you don’t know where you are going or when you are likely to get there you are probably going to get lost or just go round in circles. And the likelihood is that you will probably end up feeling very stressed, in a muddle and a bit of a failure.
Defining your goals will help you to prioritise what is the most important thing you need to do right now. Writing them down somewhere you can review them will really help to stop the muddled thinking, a great deal of guilt and sharpen your focus on what you want to achieve given your personal circumstances.
Your goals will act as a guide, a check that you are on the right road and help you take a long-term view of situations rather than focusing just on the here and now and help you work out on a day-to-day basis exactly what your priorities are right now.