Conflicts and arguments can cause unhappiness, regret and even lead to a breakdown in relationships.
Here are some tips and actions to take which will help resolve conflicts.
Remember that conflict only ever brings problems. Sometimes you have to swallow your pride to resolve a conflict. Consider one thing you can do reach out in friendship and do it.
Let go of the need to be right. The other person may appreciate it and learn from it too.
If you are angry – count to ten, take time out and allow yourself to cool down. Do not enter into dialogue while you are angry, you may say something you will regret later.
Stand in their shoes. What does the situation really feel like from their point of view. Really get into his or her skin. How does it feel; how difficult is this for them; try to let go and show some empathy and understanding for their situation.
Apologise for the bad feeling. This is not losing face – if losing face is important to you. Bad feeling has been caused over the conflict. It is not but necessarily the subject matter that has caused the problem. So if you can remove the bad feeling you may well be able to resolve the conflict.
Take responsibility for your part in the conflict and if you can not find a midway solution agree to disagree on the subject and draw a line under the problem.
If all that sounds too difficult – then fast forward your life five years and ask if you continue on this path, how will this conflict affect your future relationship with this person. In five years time might you have regrets for not taking steps to try to resolve the situation.
Resolving the situation also does not mean capitulating or backing down. However it is taking on board this little phrase, don’t sweat the small stuff – and most stuff in the grand scheme of things is small stuff.