Are you an “‘as it happens” sort of person. When a client described herself like this, I thought, what a great term.
Indeed an as it happens sort of person, I would describe as someone who takes things in their stride, is flexible adaptable and easy-going. These are all great qualities to possess.
However conversely it also probably is an indicator of someone who does not like to plan, organise and probably as a result, puts themselves under a huge amount of unnecessary stress and are often too busy for their own good. It certainly was in this particular case.
What was interesting about this particular client, who I will call Susan, was their underlying almost subconscious perception, (and I suspect many others of us share this) that planning and being very organised can be a little bit restrictive, small-minded and even obsessive.
Often just because we do not have anyone telling us to plan, as for example, in our home environment, we don’t spend time planning ahead, often to our detriment.
I know I am often guilty of rushing around like a headless chicken. I find myself packing too many things into too little time and then feel overwhelmed with what I need to get done in a particular time frame.
I have also noticed, that when I do sit down and plan, although I have taken time out of my busy schedule to do this, it is such a relief.
Even the act of making a “To Do List”, and taking the stuff that is whirling around in your brain and putting it on paper is a very powerful act. Susan never had enough time, had paperwork she could not find, lacked confidence and often felt under stress.
However bit by bit, we worked away at scheduling time in her diary for organisational planning in different parts of her life.
The outcomes were outstanding in many more ways than I certainly had anticipated. Susan found she had more time and felt less stressed. She was now using this time more effectively in many aspects of her life which we had not specifically focused on.
Susan now feels much more confident in her own ability. She has gained more friends, taken up a hobby and even lost weight.
And most important Susan now feels she is in charge of her life, not that her life is in charge of her. I am sure that these changes were not purely coincidental.
Susan still is an ‘as it happens sort of person’, but now her subconscious self, has recognised the old adage ‘fail to plan and you plan to fail’!